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How to Connect to Your Heart

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Lockdown! Even though we may not like it, approve or believe it is necessary, it is a time of contemplation, ideally suited for opening your heart. This is the time for unity. Unity of the heart and the mind. Opening your heart is NOT for your emotions to rule all your decisions. It is to create balance between the male and the female aspects of ourselves.

Consider instead, that It is a dance, and you use your mind not to close your heart, but to open it. Many of my students remember a story where a former boyfriend said to me, “Can you think of any reason that I feel such a big love for you?” Mind you, I didn’t feel he was expressing his love, but objecting to this love!  He was confused that he could feel so strongly towards me. I simply offered that we had known each other through work for a few years before we ever started dating…. Interrupting he said, “No, I feel as strongly towards you as I did towards my wife two years after we were dating.”

Quietly I offered, “Maybe we were married in another lifetime, and you may be picking up on this feeling.”  He quickly responded, “No, I’m a devout Catholic, when you die you go to heaven or hell. I don’t believe in reincarnation.” I responded with my completely open heart, “I champion your right to hold that belief as long as it pleases you.”

He leaned in, saying, “You mean like my grandfather and your grandmother were married?” Smiling, I said, “Something like that.” He had his own reasons for not wanting to feel strongly about me, and I knew I would never see him again.

True love is about liberty. It is about being willing to champion another’s right to believe what they have chosen for themselves…. until they find something else that pleases them. By adding the phrase, “as long as it pleases you,” you invite them to change. At the same time, you are agreeing with them – that their way is right for them!!!

This can be taken one step further. I listened to Dr. David E. Martin, a brilliant businessman, economist and philosopher, speak about the situation of the current social distancing, and at the end of the interview he talks about love. He states that it is not love when we allow someone with a “title” in our lives, be it mother, father or other socially important person, to insist their beliefs must be yours. That “you need to do this thing, this way otherwise you are not my son or daughter.” How do we deal with the injunction “Honor thy father and mother” from the Ten Commandments? You allow them their truth, and stand in your sovereignty.

Another area for growth and rejuvenation is the “Blow to the Heart” that I have defined in the book, Beyond the Flower of Life. So, what is a blow to the heart? It is a very clear action (word or deed or failure to act) by someone you love and trust. It usually occurs because someone you love, or are in a close relationship with, will do something, or fail to do something, that disappoints you. It usually occurs around a real issue, and you believe they should have realized how strongly their words or actions would impact you. Yet it happened. They either didn’t realize it or they didn’t care. It doesn’t matter. It hurts!

Confronting the individual may make you feel better, but it may not yield the results you are looking for. The perpetrator (if that’s an accurate word) may feel justified in their actions. They may be unwittingly supporting your ascension work! Love them anyway.

It’s not easy, and it does not mean you should take multiple “blows to the heart” from the same individual. What it does mean is that these “blows” can crack the armor you may have built around your heart, allowing you to shed this armor. The alternative is to patch it up, and become more hardened in the heart.

Only someone close to you has the ability to give you this transformational upgrade.

I call this rocket fuel for Ascension. As we move into mastery, we will all get these opportunities to break down the layers of armor around the heart. It is faster than just about any process and it forces us to choose. Will we be forgiving and open our heart?  Or will we be stubborn insisting we are right. You may be right, but does that serve you?

Excerpt from Beyond the Flower of Life

“The heart is the translator for the Higher Self information. The more open your heart is, the clearer the incoming information will be. It is in your best interest to stay open and work through the blows to the heart so that you can advance in your understanding of what your Higher Self has in store for you.

Love is the fuel. Your Higher Self needs your open heart’s love (fuel) to understand and interpret the information coming in through the MerKaBa and Higher Self. You are capable of higher and higher expressions of unconditional love. Rocket fuel (for vehicles) contains higher octane to produce jet propulsion just as your love quotient increases your ability to move and understand the Third Dimension reality we live in.

Love is the basis for the Fifth Dimension reality that we are evolving towards. Give yourself the blessing of opening your heart every chance you get. What you desire is a level of unconditional love that enables clear communication from the Fifth Dimension Higher Self.

When you study a foreign language you have the opportunity to make a big leap by going to visit the foreign country that speaks your new language. When you take a blow to the heart you achieve a similar leap. Your heart breaks off a layer of armor, and you may choose to remain “exposed” and more loving, or closed and become hard-hearted. The choice is yours.”

So where do we go from here? Learn the phrase, “I champion your right to hold that belief as long as it pleases you.” And check out my new meditation, and free download for this month, “Show Me How Much I Am Loved.” Just saying this phrase releases you from bondage, and will create a very receptive energy that will allow you to feel how very much the universe loves you! And I love you too!

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